Answer #1: “Legitimate interest on her part. Anything can happen and I’m fine with it as long as I know she’s doing it because she likes it.
And also, face-sitting. Don’t feel self-conscious about it either.”
Answer #2: “Giving you pleasure, making you want it, teasing, oral, etc. Foreplay IS sex, not just something you gotta do before. It’s half the fun!!”
Answer #3: “Two sides to this answer: What I want you to do to me, AND what I want from you when I’m doing things to you…
What do I want a woman to do to me? Honestly, I just want you to enjoy yourself. If you’re just going through the motions I will probably be able to tell. Like, if you hate to go down on me, you probably won’t give the best head. And although ‘bad head’ is still good head, there’s no reason to do it just because you feel obligated. I can get just as turned on by a woman kissing my neck and fondling my balls as I can by a woman going down on me.
Every guy is different. And even situations are different. Like, if you are horny and want me to spank you and beat it up from behind, then the way you come at me with foreplay should align with this desire. If you want me to be gentle and make love, then kiss me gently, too. I’ll follow your lead. And as for what to do during foreplay? Pretty much any touching or kissing anywhere is a turn-on. It typically doesn’t take much. Asking is a huge turn on, too!!! ‘Do you like it like this’ uh, yes, I do! And thank you for asking, and now I’m so turned on that you asked that I’m going to have to immediately ravage you!!!
And as far as foreplay for you, don’t fake it. My goal is to turn you on. If what I’m doing isn’t doing it for you then don’t let me waste both of our time! Give little ‘commands’ or ‘course corrections’ to guide me to what you want.
Now I will say, in my younger years, getting directions was a bit of a blow to the ego. I thought I knew what I was doing, so to be told I was doing it wrong kind of hurt! Lol. But some of it had to do with the way I was told I was doing it wrong… Don’t just be a dick about it! If you say, ‘Why are you doing it like that?’ With an attitude, is going to make me just not want to do it anymore. Ever! That may sound like it’s obvious, and it would go both ways, but that was a prior experience I had, so I figured I would share it!
However, if you say something like: ‘That feels good, use your tongue more’ or ‘Baby, I like that, slow down a little bit,’ I will get excited that I am on the right track and that you’re enjoying it, and it’s honestly always been a turn on to get a little bit of direction. Being able to ensure your partner is enjoying themselves should be a turn-on! Unless, of course, you’re with a selfish partner.”
